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A boring life?

Submitted by skykid on Tuesday, 10 October 2006View Comments

confused boySometimes I wonder what is better – living a boring life – like an ordinary person I guess or living a life full of events – some weird, some good, some bad, scary or totally fucked up. At first one could thing that the second variant is preferable – but since I am actually leaving such a life often think that it would be much easier to go with the flow.

Then you may think – oh come one everyone is just like the others – there are no extraordinary events or people or whatever ….and yet it will be hard for me to agree with that. One of my favorite characters in “Rule of the Bone” a book by Russell Banks Chappy says:

“You will probably think I am making a lot of this up just to make me sound better than I really am or smarter or even luckier but I `m not . Besides , a lot of things that have happened to me in my life so far which I will get to pretty soon make me sound evil or just plain dumb or the tragic victim of circumstances . Which I know doesn`t exactly prove I am telling the truth but if I wanted to make myself look better than I am or smarter or master of my own fate so to speak I could. The fact is that the truth is much more interesting than anything I could make up and that`s why I am telling it in the first place“

And that is exactly what I am going to say to everyone who is going to waste some valuable minutes of his/her life ( I know you have something better to do ) to read this post. Few years ago I was sitting on a bench or something with my girlfriend and while talking (aside the other fun staff) I noticed that most of the time it was me telling stories about things which had happened to me. And then I paused and told her that asking her to tell me her stories or something (I know it sounds a bit dumb) – she was like – “Oh nothing really interesting happens to me – so many things happen in your life “. If that was true back then, I is even more true now. I have been to places which some people will never go, done things which most people will never do – been to hell and heaven and when I ask myself is it worth it ?

Yeah cool things happen, but many bad ones happen too – and sometimes I really feel that if I was interested in soccer let’s say ( to watch not to play – I actually like playing it ) or was going to fitness clubs  – listening to all that commercial crap that floods everything from the TV and the radio – life could be easier – but instead I should absolutely do something which will change an otherwise ordinary thing into something weird , dumb or just strange. I know I can’t answer my questions by just punching the keyboard for few minutes ( I tend to type fast as my troughs fly trough my mind at rapid pace ) , but I can at least try ….

My long term goals – is to move to Spain ….yaa whatever I know I have bored you to hell with all that writing of mine – but I needed to write it (

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  • Lucas113
    I´ve thought rather much about my life too, and therefore I find the topic we are discussing here very interesting. Interestingly enough I also think that this matter is actually only interesting to us who wouldn´t like to have the "boring life", because people who already are completely satisfied with their "ordinary" lives don´t tend to think so much about it. That´s why I think that only the simple fact that we are having this discussion is a proof of that we prefer the "roller coaster-life", with its ups and downs instead of having a peaceful walk through life. Of course the walking would be much easier, but also much more boring. And you would never know how it feels when falling down the hill, and you would never know the feeling of joy and thrill when you´re going up again. Actually you wouldn´t even understand if someone tried to tell you about his roller coaster experience, since if you had never tried it you couldn´t possibly know how it is like.
    I´m sure I prefer the roller coaster, and even if my present life sometimes make me have to walk some miles to get to the amusement park, I certainly make sure I get there!
  • Thanks for the great comment Petru. And don`t worry - your English is just fine. It is comments like yours that fuel my desire to keep blogging. Since I wrote that post back in 2006 - many things have changed -I am not in Spain yet - but my dad said that is everything is OK we shall hit the road in June or July. We are going to have a road trip - traveling via Rome , Paris ...etc. And that would be the new event I am looking forward to - a road trip with my Dad. He has been in Spain for 7 years as well - so its only me - who is going to be the new there - but I have been in Madrid and love it - so hopefully will successfully settle there - get accepted to a University and continue my education . I intend to stay in Spain ....but will see - nothing is for sure until it happens.

    You are right-that one just have to life the life as it goes ...

    Greetings,

    SkyKid
  • petru
    mind my English...
    I was surfing the net, google about 'boring life’, just to see if I write’ it ok (chatting with friend in English); so I find your blog and I read u post. I question lately a lot about my actual life stile. The last 2,3 years all seems to be so ordinary to me, nothing new, nothing different and I cant stop asking myself what the fuck is happening.
    I need to create memories, like you sad or question yourself, good or bad thing has to happen I this life, hope only the good things but ‘shit happens’ (we only hope to happens small shits).
    I definitely think that there are times for settle down and thing that are other things more interesting to be done and maybe all this is a waste of time, time to analise the past ant take a look at the future, and times when you live, when you don’t think to deeply, just live the life, creating memories like I prefer to say.
    And about “listening to all that commercial crap that floods everything from the TV and the radio – life could be easier” NO WAY MAN : ) ; I also thing that maybe having a ‘regular’ life, were regular me, well is difficult to explain… and now I’m questioning the way that I focus your ( . ) of view.
    I notice a certain similitude in the way that u question the life, but my way, the recent way, is questioning about… everything, lol, about what really makes sense in this life, try to see the purpose of the thing that happens, happened and will happen and thinking that maybe is more easier to just don’t question, thinking that maybe other don’t thing in all the things and just live. It’s more complicated then that but I decide for the moment to simplify, stop wandering around in circles and LIVE. Live with the bad things I’ve done, with the good ones (that’s easy) and what will be will be. It’s a sort of CARPE DIEM but with a little conscience, just a bit. : )
    By the way I’m already in Spain, for 7 years now… :- )
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